A memorial is much more than a
piece of marble or granite. Within the confines of its structure there
is evidence of a life that was lived, shared, appreciated and remembered.
Yet the commemorative value is not the only benefit of a memorial. The
time invested in wording the inscription, the choice of an appropriate
stone, the discussion of colour, shape and design all become a vital part
of the healing process - the acknowledgement that someone has died is
an important first step in facing the reality of loss.
Once, erected, the visible memorial holds the potential of becoming a
focal point for remembrance and for grieving - learning to let go of a
special relationship is a gradual and painful part of grief and for some
grieving people a memorial can represent a place to 'be with' or feel
'close to' the person who has died.
For future generations, a memorial is a link with the past; it is documented
evidence of a family's history and heritage. modern day memorial practices
such as scattering cremated remains or donating gift to charity may be
practical options to consider but they are no match for the solid statement
made by a lasting tribute etched in stone.
In effect there is a real sense of comfort in knowing that a monument
is a symbol of performance - and enduring tribute to a person whose life
is remembered and an acknowledgement for those who continue to remember.
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